How to ruin a marriage. Seriously these tips can destroy the love in any relationship.

Obsess on the negative. Some people can do this naturally but most of us need help. It takes all your energy and leaves energy for little more in life. We have never met a spouse who was obsessed over being wronged by the other spouse do well in any other aspects of their life. So this technique has the extra bonus of no one wanting to be around the practitioner.

The way you get to a state where you can do this well is a simple technique. It is called "self righteousness", and we promise that it works every time. Just convince yourself that you deserve a "I am are holier than thou attitude". Guaranteed with money back on that notion.

Of for sure this works. Make sure that no matter how angry the house seemed that when you get there it is worse. Start with accusatory questions. Then criticize with the state of the house. And then act bone tired. And show disappointment. This works wonders in establishing that you are better than your spouse and it reinforces any negative feelings of self worth your spouse has themselves. If you do this right depression of a clinical nature can set in and you get a whole new box of weapons.

Constant Raising of contentious issues. Oh yes do not let a moment go by where you do not raise something to argue about. Old wounds are the best because you can say something neutral and still inflict the pain. A subset of this is tone of voice and looking away and not allowing touch.

Guilt is our friend. Use it or lose it whenever you can make your spouse feel guilty.

Just make a phone and email and text schedule through the day. Always keep it real brief and hit buttons to make sure that your spouse cannot get their work done well. Their failure at work and social is paramount so you can hold that against them.

This is so easy it is child's play we are going to take these verses. And apply them in our tone:

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Our version. 4 Love is impatient, love is unkind. It envies, it boasts, it is full of pride. 5 It dishonors everybody, it is self-seeking, it is easily angered, it keeps a detailed record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth, as long as the truth is our self seeking ways.. 7 It always protects oneself, always trusts only oneself, always hopes for opportunity to do a one-up-manship deal, always perseveres.

Buy now you should have gotten the big picture at least those of us here at the Dierker Consultancy for Higher Understanding hope you have.

We, each one of us do these things. We really do. We even think this way but most just act this way in some part of their being. What we hoped to slip in was intention. By pretending that we would do this intentionally we created a psychopath as an illustration. It is not a wrong model. If you really wanted to do this you could. And the darned hardest fact is that we do it without wanting to do it.

I love you. Your life is hard, from India to DC to the Falklands and to Central Africa and Bolivia to the Balkans. From Japan to Mongolia and down to Australia. Yes you are unique and yes you are special. But you would not need our love if you were perfect.

So we here are the consultancy beg you to take a look and just examine if you are doing any of this stuff.

We do not specialize in personal relationships. We specialize in making problems go away and be resolved. We are hired to fix certain issues that are normally part legal and part financial. But we have found that folks acting like our script here are ten times more likely to encounter these problems and that if we cannot resolve the issues above we cannot solve the problem without liquidation and fire sale and bankruptcy and divorce solutions.

This article is not a feel good article to this point and it was not written to be that kind of article it was written as a wake up call to you bombastic and mean spirited folks on both sides of the spousal isle. We do not care what sex you are or your age or your tax bracket.

We do damned well care if you have children. And we do not care for you and your spouse because of the children. We care because of what your are teaching them. And what they will teach their children.

So let us go gently into a secular rewriting of our cherished most famous of all love concepts.

We are not perfect nor will we ever be. But our birth is perfect in our Creators eyes: So says our declaration of independence and our constitution. We are made equal in our creators eyes. So how we turn out is up to us.

Our job is easy but performing it is hard work and devotion.

Let us go back and look and some instruction left around two thousand years ago. I have a small 4 year old so I love dinosaurs. But proof of them is in things like skeletons. These words were written and how so is like skeletons but I like them more than skeletons. I think we should look at them for what the say and not some kind of archaeological dig in Siberia.

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Our group just cannot come up with anything better. But we add some truths that we think are helpful to modern day.

Money problems belong out of the bedroom and the bedroom must be cohabited regardless of money problems.

Accusations are man made and not love or God made.

Peace is a desire, if it is only a formality all things die.

Love is not a driving force but to love is.

Finances are for others lest we let personalities infect finances.

If life is really bad, go see a doctor.

Leave "divorce coaches" out of your equation of life.

If you are more angry than loving, it is not someone else's fault.

We are not born to be good, because of society, we must work on it.